The Fastener


My husband and I made the acquaintance of a little old lady awhile ago, the sort who owns a fabric shop and is a guru when it comes to sewing. Somehow or other, the subject of snaps, eyelets, and the tools used to set them came up in conversation with her, and she highly recommended The Fastener by Dritz. When we looked the tool up at home, we discovered that it was no longer being manufactured, so we decided to keep an eye on Ebay.

While The Fastener isn’t particularly expensive, it’s very popular and gets snatched up almost as soon as someone lists one for sale. We ended up having to wait a few months before we were able to get this one for me.

And what a dream! It’s easy to use, and works wonderfully. I’m never going to let this tool get away from me.




I did a test eyelet and it turned out beautifully. I didn't have to punch through the fabric at all beforehand -- the Fastener did everything with one quick squeeze.

I did a test eyelet and it turned out beautifully. I didn’t have to punch through the fabric at all beforehand — the Fastener did everything with one quick squeeze.

The back.

The back.


Book Review – Vintage Lingerie by Jill Salen

41EKQcEEACL._SY300_ I recently got this book, Vintage Lingerie by Jill Salen, because I personally hate modern undergarments and am on the search for older styles to try, and I was very pleased with Jill Salen’s other book, Corsets.

The majority of the patterns are for brassieres, though it also includes corsets, pantaloons, knickers, girdles, garter belts, and slips, ranging from the 1850’s to the 1970’s, the majority of which coming from the 1930’s-50’s. In the back there are instructions for sewing two of the patterns, as well as a number of handstitches.

The lingerie included is this book is beautiful and interesting, and some degree of familiarity with altering patterns and sewing without step-by-step instructions is required in order to reproduce the garments, so I wouldn’t recommend it for beginners (unless you’re really ambitious, then go right ahead). It makes a good reference book on how the styles of lingerie have changed through the years.

The author’s descriptions, on the other hand, are rather annoying at times — on several of the garments, she gives the history of the decade that it was produced in, but fails to describe the item itself with satisfactory detail. The author’s attitude towards the lingerie is also a bit off-putting for those who are vintage-enthusiasts, looking for styles to reproduce and include in their own wardrobes, since she dismisses a lot of the garments as being pretty but impractical. It almost seems like the author has a love-hate relationship with vintage lingerie, since she has a definite attraction to it, but at the same time can’t let go of the notion that modern society is more “advanced.”

On the whole, I like the book and the layout, and I look forward to reproducing the styles. I’m definitely glad that I purchased this. I’d rate it a 4 out of 5.

My thoughts on the volleyball player

Last night I caught the story about a volleyball star rescuing her marriage by choosing to be submissive to her husband on the TV, and the public reaction that ensued — namely, hatred and anger. The comments on the news story are difficult to read because of the sheer amount of venom in them, so I highly recommend against it if you’re at all interested in keeping a positive vibe in your life.

Most women who choose to be submissive to their husbands are usually met with the same reaction, especially when they share that the decision to do so has saved their marriages and made them happier on the whole. The “gender equality” movement is based on the premise that submission makes everyone miserable, and that egalitarianism is the only cure, so every assertion to the contrary is a threat to the entire movement. Hence, the hatred and anger that women are subjected to for making a personal choice about how they want to live within their own homes. Publicly asserting that you like to be gentle and feminine is a very brave thing to do!

Personally, I believe that submitting to one’s husband makes for a happier and more successful marriage, and all of the evidence that I’ve heard has supported that view. Having clearly established roles lets each partner know what is expected of them, what they can expect of their partner, and lets them focus on doing their part so that they can have a functional family.

Kudos to Gabrielle Reece, for having the courage to live the way she wants to in the face of opposition!

Likes and Views

I’m always rather curious about how many ‘Likes’ on my posts are from someone who genuinely liked the content, and how many are from people hoping to drum up traffic for their own blogs. I started to think about this when I noticed that some posts get more ‘Likes’ than they do views, and there are certain names who seem to like everything no matter what.

I personally have the policy of only ‘Liking’ post that I genuinely like, and I always make sure to visit the post itself before clicking that little button. I’m actually very glad that the option exists, because I’m terrible at coming up with comments yet I still want to let the author know that I enjoyed something they wrote. However, I’m not terribly thrilled that the function is being abused, especially since it devalues my own ‘Likes.’

Does anyone else think about this?

A short political note

It irks me that the people who are posting the most about marriage equality on Facebook, are the same ones who told me that I deserved to be homeless and miserable because I chose to marry a man that they didn’t like. I suppose that allowing a person to choose who they love and supporting their relationships only applies to gay couples.

Motherhood is a lifestyle

I hate it when people refer to motherhood as a ‘job,’ especially when they say it’s the ‘hardest job in the world.’ Oh gee, I never realized that raising kids was harder than underwater welding, underground mining, firefighting, being on the bomb squad, or working as an EMT, etc. Honestly, I have no clue why people like to say that motherhood is the ‘hardest job in the world’ — I can only speculate that they’re trying to be patronizing, while simultaneously telling mothers that they have the crappiest lot in life. “Raising kids is harder than telling someone that they have six months before the cancer kills them.”

Um, no. Not by a long shot.

I don’t think of motherhood as a job. There’s no one telling me what I have to do, and I certainly don’t get paid money for doing it. I don’t have to navigate through office politics, or stress over performance evaluations. I definitely don’t have to wait for lunch breaks, or schedule vacation time. Motherhood is not a job, it’s the lifestyle that I have chosen for myself. There are moments of laughter, and moments of tears, and that’s what makes it life. Life should not be thought of in terms of putting in X amount of work and receiving Y amount of compensation, but in terms of what promotes love and happiness, and what doesn’t — the former should be sought after, and the latter avoided!

I see a lot of mothers stress themselves out by fixating on what they think *should* be. The baby *should* be taking long naps on his own. The baby *should* be more independent and less needy. The baby *should* not wet so many diapers. The baby *should* not cry so much. Most of the time, mothers aren’t even aware that they’re having thoughts like that, and are simply getting frustrated at their children for behaving the way they do. I have found that they best thing to do is to let go and accept things the way they are. One day your baby won’t want to cuddle with you, so enjoy every minute you get to hold him while he sleeps. One day you won’t be able to rescue your baby from everything that makes him unhappy, so kiss away every tear while you still can. Don’t waste your time feeling annoyed at your baby for acting like a baby.

And yes, sometimes mothers do feel flustered no matter how accepting and loving they try to be. That’s a sign that you have a need that’s not being met, and it’s perfectly okay to take care of that need. Sometimes you can have someone else take care of the baby, but that’s not always an option. Instead, you can take a bath with your baby, go into the kitchen for a snack, or sit outside together in the backyard. Any sort of change in the scene helps, and when you’re more relaxed, the baby is too.

Motherhood is not the hardest job in the world. It’s eating cookies, playing with toys, sharing smiles and giggles, and chasing the tears away. It’s life, complete with good times and bad, and it’s as satisfying and rewarding as you choose for it to be — that’s how life works.

Would your “Perfect Man” actually like you?

It’s very common for women and girls to make lists about the qualities that they want in a future husband, and they make a big deal out of finding a guy who fits everything on the list. However, try imagining it from the other side: the perfect man is out there, he’s funny, smart, and good with kids, and he came up with a list of attributes that he wants in a future wife. Would you fit that list?

Be realistic with what you imagine. I doubt that there are any guys out there who want a woman to sit around all day doing nothing while he brings home the bacon, cooks it, then washes the dishes, especially if he’s funny, smart, good with kids, etc. So, what would your perfect guy want? A good cook? Someone who’s easy-going, and not at all catty? A woman who’s always going to take care of her appearance, and never let herself go?

You’ll have a much better chance of finding your perfect guy, if you try to be the sort of person that he would want to be with. Work on improving yourself, become the most amazing person that you can be, and in turn you’ll attract someone who’s equally amazing. Otherwise, your perfect guy will probably pass you up for someone who better fits his criteria.